Why and When You Need Marriage Counseling?

Why and When You Need Marriage Counseling?

Any married couple does not have a perfect relationship. Every couple goes through ups and downs. Some overcome the troubles or problems or conflicts, but some do not. When they cannot, they end up arguing, fighting, feeling disgusted with one another, and cant tolerates each other and more. It brings them to the stage where separating seems an easy option rather than accepting each other or their faults. The best Psychologists in west delhi say this is the time when couples need marriage guidance or marriage therapy.

What is Marriage Counseling or Marriage guidance?

Marriage counselling or marriage guidance is a type of psychotherapy like any other counselling; however, the only difference is, marriage counselling aims at improving or resolving the conflicts between couples and therefore making their relation better. Marriage counselors talk to couples and help them understand each other and resolve conflicts. But the real question is does marriage counseling work? This you will discover later in this blog post.

How Marriage counselling helps?

Marriage counselling helps the couple to think about their relation carefully and strengthen it rather than just giving up on it unless that is the only option or that is the option that is better for both. It deals with issues such as communication problems, difficulties in their sexual life, substance abuse issues, anger issues, domestic violence, etc. Marriage counseling, like any other counseling, has to be done by a licensed therapist or marriage counselor who has knowledge in the field of marriage and family counselling.

Couples who get the most and least out of marriage counseling are:

Couples who get the most out of marriage counseling	Couples who get the least out of marriage counseling
The couple who are still young.	Couple in which one partner just wants a divorce.
Couples who are still in love with each other	The couple who are not ready to accept any solutions.
Couples who are open-minded.	The couple who wait a long before seeking any kind of help.
Couples who do not believe in sexism	Couple in which either or both of the partners are addicted to substances.
Couples who are ready to accept their own flaws and mistakes	Couple in which either of the partners does not show interest in improving the relationship

Reasons couples usually seek for marriage counselling

A few of the common reasons that make couples seek for marriage counselor are as follows:

1- When there is a clash about money, the clashes can be on various reasons such as when either one is spending a lot of money rather than saving or when either of the
couples feel that they are the one who invests more money to buy daily things than the other partner or when partners feel that the other one is sending or spending a lot amount of money to/on their parents and many more.

Married couples try to save money for life after retirement, and when either one spends too much money from the saved one, then it creates a clash between them. The clash can also happen if either one feels inferior due to earning less as compared to their partner. Marriage therapy helps in covering these issues to make the relationship of the couple smooth.

2- No interest in each other, After seven years or so of marriage, couples start to grow
apart from each other. Although they might live together under the same roof, they
might do the household together, but they do not have that same spark in their
relationship as it was before. They do not have any intimacy; they are just there in the
relationship for the sake of being married or for kids if they have any. They forget to
appreciate each other. Partners might feel that they are not seen by their spouse or are
being heard. Marriage counselors work on bringing the same spark and love back into a relationship.

3- Extramarital affairs, if either or both of the partners are having an affair with others
and hence cheating on their spouse. Cheating on a spouse is one of the most common
reasons that couples face and hence seek marriage counseling. Cheating does not only
means having physical relationships with others but also if the partner hides things, does
not share things also included in cheating.

Cheating or extramarital affair can happen due to the reason mentioned above (reason 2)- since there is no intimacy or spark left in their marriage hence partners look for some other place to fulfill their biological needs.

Couples do not usually come for marriage therapy if they are cheating on the spouse, but come only when there is a situation where the spouse finds out about the affair the other partner is having, but both still want to save the relation.

4- Arguments- sometimes couples only try to prove themselves right and do not accept
their own mistakes. They also do not accept each other’s flaws and get frustrated with
the other very quickly; in such a case, marriage counselling is very helpful.

Marriage counselling & Divorce

The job of a marriage counselor is basically to help the couple solve the fights and conflicts between them. There are few ethical guidelines and issues due to which a marriage counselor will never directly suggest a divorce even if the counselor knows that nothing is left in the marriage.

A marriage counselor helps and suggests ways to cope up with issues and bring understanding and start fresh or new life.

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Author:

Aleena Thakurta